Shabbat Shalom Fellow Truth Seekers,
May your Praise and Halleluyah’s be lifted up to the Eternal Throne today as we worship both Father and Son in one rhythm and as one people. He has a purpose for your life, He alone will guide you from despair to an abiding confident expectation in Him. While life has its troubles, Yahuah and Yahusha the Messiah have made a way of escape, the only path to restoration. Halleluyah!!!
When “Why” Becomes “Whine”
By Barbara Lardinais
(Set-apart names have been changed)
“Therefore, I will not restrain my mouth; I will speak in the anguish of my ruach (spirit), I will complain in the bitterness of my soul.” Job 7:11
When trouble hits one of our first responses is usually to cry out “Why, Yahuah?” Even though Yahusha said, “In this world you will have trouble” (John 16:33), we never quite apply that to ourselves in any literal sense. (Okay maybe you do—I’ll speak for myself.) Sometimes we feel that we have already had our fair distribution of troubles, as if there is a quota system. Then when one trouble piles atop another, “why” often masks what’s really in our heart: “It’s not fair!”
How does Yahuah take to us asking the why question? Are we allowed? Does He expect us to just silently bear our cross? Will He give us extra brownie points for smiling big and saying to our friends “Praise Yahuah anyhow”? Some heavy hitters in the Scriptures didn’t suffer in silence though, did they?
Job springs to mind immediately. “Therefore, I will not restrain my mouth; I will speak in the anguish of my ruach (spirit), I will complain in the bitterness of my soul.” (Job 7:11) How could Job say such a thing and yet Yahuah condemned Job’s friends—not him—with these words: “My wrath is kindled against you and against your two friends, because you have not spoken of Me what is right as My servant Job has.” (Job 42:7)
Then there is David. David could certainly never be accused of holding his tongue through his troubles. He poured out his whole soul profusely to Yahuah in whatever troubles came his way. “O my Alahim, I cry by day, but You do not answer; and by night, but I have no rest.” (Psalm 22:2) Yet Alahim called David a man after his own heart. (See Acts 13:22)
Yahuah is never offended or shocked by our honest emotion. We can always ask Him “why” without fear that He will reject us. Our questions may even be to our advantage as we work things through. We need to offload our strong emotions rather than stuff them deep down where they can fester and damage our soul. We need to examine our circumstance and admit it if we have opened a door that led to our own troubles. Our “whys” can also help us see our troubles from the perspective of the way Yahuah is ultimately working them for our good. (See Romans 8:28)
Does a time come however, when why must be cut off? Told to take a hike? Laid to permanent rest? Yes. “Why” goes too far when it turns to whining, which unfortunately can happen in the blink of an eye. Shall I confess how I know this? I’ve done my share of whining over time and I’m embarrassed to tell you it’s not a pretty sight. As much as I despised it in my own children when they tried it, I haven’t always spared my Eternal Father the very same obnoxious behavior.
How can you tell when “why” turns to whining? No longer are you just honestly acknowledging grief or anguish or shock or sadness, but now other destructive emotions and thoughts try to tag along. Self-pity is quick to jump on the bandwagon. Comparing to others who are not saddled with any of the troubles you are springs up. A sense of entitlement that you don’t deserve what has happened starts sprouting.
The outcome of these add-ons is the erosion of one thing you cannot live successfully without: TRUST. David and Job and all the others who honestly spoke their mind to Yahuah never forgot that. David sang Yahuah’s praises and proclaimed his obedience as often as he lamented his troubles. Job rightly said this: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I shall return there. Yahuah gave and Yahuah has taken away. Blessed by the name of Yahuah.” (Job 1:21)
When troubles inevitably come into your life you do not need to bite your tongue. You do not need to pretend that you’re on such a high divine mountain none of it bothers you. Go ahead and cry out to Yahuah all that is honestly on your heart. Get it off your chest so it doesn’t sink down into your soul to plant seeds of bitterness.
“Why” is okay, but whine is not.
Teach me Your way, O Yahuah; I will walk in Your truth: unite my heart to fear Your name. Tehillim (Psalms) 86:11